Sweet Like Chocolate

Apparently the theme for my birthday this year was CHOCOLATE! Coincidentally my friends bought for me chocolate and chocolate flavoured products for me. Sweets from my sweets :) 

 

Thanks gals......it's more than I could ask for.

You say SEXIST..I say GRATEFUL

Someone once told me that I seem to be sexist. I admit that I am pro women but I don't think I'm sexist. I do not think women are better than men and I don't think that women can survive without men. Men and women are different like how God intended us to be and we keep the world balanced. However I am pro women because I am proud of my race and I am grateful for the women before me who fought for women's rights. Those women fought for us...girls today.

It was a movie that I watched when I was six years old or so that made me realize that girls did not have it easy back in the day. The movie was 'A League of Their Own'...and I have watched it over and over throughout the years growing up. The movie stared Tom Hanks, Geena Davis, Madonna and many more. It was set in the 1940's I guess where the baseball league was shut down because men were off to war. So in order to revive the game again a company comes up with an idea to start a professional women's baseball league. This movie features how these group of women strive to work hard and to be considered as good as men. As a little girl watching this, I thought to myself...wow...girls couldn't play sports those days. I guess you could say it was a light bulb moment for me. It was when I realise girls couldn't do simple things like playing baseball....let alone work in the cooperate world.

I remember my mother telling me stories from the 70s when women use to burn their bras as a sign for women liberation. I found those stories so fascinating and i remember how I wished I was alive to see that. As I was growing up I learnt more and more about how women had to fight to be equal as men. Women were not given the right to a proper education and they couldn't vote. Women were just meant to be a wife and a mother...nothing else. As long you could cook a meal, do the laundry, look after children and make love to your husband...you are a complete women. Now as a 24 year old I cannot imagine my life being confined to such few aspects. If I was a 24 year old in the 1950's I would be married with two kids and one on the way. It's so hard for me to imagine that because I can't cook a meal to save my life let alone take care of a FAMILY!

Another movie I love is Mona Lisa Smile starring the great Julia Roberts. I watched this movie a few years ago and my favourite scene is when Julia Roberts presents a slide show to her class about an advertisement about girdles. If I'm not mistaken it said 'It will set you free'. Julia Roberts with full of rage asked what does this mean? WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? It's true...how can a girdle set you free? Is being pretty the only purpose in life?? One by one we see the girls were off busy getting married. As a university student myself, I couldn't imagine getting married in the MIDDLE of semester. We can see that these girls were brought up to believe that their purpose in life were to groom themselves and get married and live happily ever after just like in the fairy tales. It was interesting to see the characters develop as women and some of them took the road less traveled to pursue their career. That path is common in today's world. I guess back then it was all keeping up appearances. Be pretty, be a good wife, be a good mother. Of course that is not wrong but be a good doctor, lawyer, scientist could be added to that as well. I remember Kirsten Dunst's character talking to her mother about Mona Lisa's smile saying that she was not happy. Maybe she was just keeping up appearances too. We'll never know.

I'm sure everybody have heard the names Watson and Crick. They were the ones who elucidated the double helical DNA structure. But has anyone heard about Rosalind Franklin? She is best known for her work on the X-ray diffraction images of DNA which led to discovery of DNA double helix. Her data, according to Francis Crick, was "the data we actually used" to formulate Crick and Watson's 1953 hypothesis regarding the structure of DNA. But was she given a nobel prize? Nope....because back then even the nobel prize committee were gender bias. She didn't get due recognition because she was a W-O-M-A-N! 

I'm not a sexist I'm just grateful for these great women before me who have paved the way for me to the right of education, voting and career. After knowing the history of women's rights...how can I not be pro women. As young women today we should respect the greats before us by practicing our rights. It sickens me to see young girls dumb their selves down just to attract a boy. It is disrespecting those women who fought so hard for us. Paris Hilton is not HOT...Rosalind Franklin and Madame Curie are HOT. I'm grateful that there existed such visionary women throughout history. We can be mothers, wives and career women. I am woman hear me ROAR!

I LOVE YOU

I Love You....que the music, sunshine, double rainbows and the chirping of birds. That's the normal cheesy cinematic approach when those three 'magical' words are uttered especially when it's between two lovers.

I wonder how many people stop to think what those three little words mean? It's just three simple words that even a child can say but mind you that those are the most powerful words anyone can say. But how many people mean it and how many people know the weight of words?

Everybody has their own perception on love. Love towards their family, pets and of course not forgetting their 'soul mate'. 'I Love You' is something I rarely say to people, so if I say it, it means I really mean what I say.
Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.  ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery.
That's my favourite saying regarding love. Love is not about the fireworks and the parade that goes on. In my opinion, love occurs when the dust from all those fireworks and parade settles. Will you be there for that person in good times and in bad or will you get bored of the person and find another new toy to play with?

Family's love is unconditional but the love of your significant other is the tricky one. I have had those 'blessed' words said to me throughout my lifetime but lucky I never believed it because it was just infatuation. There's a big difference between LIKE and LOVE. Choose words carefully because what may be sweet words now will only be bitter revelation at the end. If you start of with 'I LOVE YOU EVEN IF HELL BREAKS LOOSE'....when hell actually breaks loose and you run...well? Where's the love?

Love with your significant other is not about the romance. It's about the adventure of the relationship. For me love is respect, understanding and support for each other. Not about the colour of your skin, the language you speak and not about your popularity. Someone who says 'I LOVE YOU' should be the reason for your success. He/She should make you strive to be a better YOU and not pick out your flaws and give you reasons as to why you are not perfect. They should BUILD you up not TEAR you down.
Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.  They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.  ~Author Unknown 


When someone tells you 'I LOVE YOU'....the whole world should know it. If you are kept a secret...do you know what you are?....You're a mistress. Just ponder about that for awhile. Mistress are given pretty things, are told sweet sugary words and they are also a secret to society. Nobody knows who LOVES the mistress.
The one who proclaims his/her love for you should tell it loud and proud. There is no reason that love should be kept a secret. Now I know why people put their relationship status on their Facebook profile. I guess some of it is to show off...and some is to proclaim their love in a public way.

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.  ~Jonathan Carroll, "Outside the Dog Museum"

I rarely say 'I LOVE YOU' because I'm afraid to trip. Love can be so beautiful and yet so painful when it is over. Some may just say sugar coated words just to get what they want. I'm sure those people have not heard of karma. In my opinion the meanest thing a person can do is to make others fall in love with them when they don't really mean it. The pain when discovering the deception is indescribable. Three little words but it has the power to evoke so much of emotion. That's the power of 'I LOVE YOU'. So be careful when you say it....if you don't mean it, don't say it. But if you say it and don't mean it....THOR might strike you. 

I learned the real meaning of love.  Love is absolute loyalty.  People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades.  You can depend so much on certain people, you can set your watch by them.  And that's love, even if it doesn't seem very exciting.  ~Sylvester Stallone